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How to Manage Negative vs. Positive Responsibility
Copyright © Richard Hopkins - All Rights Reserved
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Do you really run your life in a responsible manner? There
are definite negative consequences when we fail to accept
personal responsibility for our thoughts and actions..
What Are the Negative Consequences?
1. Just what do people believe who have not accepted
personal responsibility?
2. How do we properly describe those who won't accept it?
3. What behavior traits do we need to develop in order to
accept personal responsibility?
4. What are the steps we must take in accepting personal
responsibility?
5. What is accepting personal responsibility?
Personal responsibility impacts many areas in our lives. It
isn't rocket science but it can get very complicated when
we fail to practice it in our daily affairs. Acknowledging
that you are personally and solely responsible, for the
choices in your life is really the first step in making
attitude and mind set changes.
NO one is responsible for you but you. In the beginning
stage you should be aware that you're responsible for what
you choose to feel, think and decide.
You're working on becoming comfortable with your decision to
accept the direction that you're choosing for your life. You
must be realistic and also accept that you can't blame
others for the choices you have made, good or bad.
You'll need to agree that you'll work on tearing down the
mask of defense or rationale, for why you feel that others
are responsible for who you are, what has happened to you,
and what you are bound to become. You want to face reality
but don't know how and why you feel this way.
Moving Through the Progressive Stages.
The next thing you must do is grasp a rational belief that
you are responsible for determining who your are. You'll
need to reflect on how your personal choices have affected
you already and how they still affect your life. You'll
learn to point the finger of responsibility back to you and
away from others, when you're reflecting on the consequences
of your personal thoughts and actions.
Then you'll need to realize that you determine your
"feelings" about any events or actions addressed to you.
This is the case no matter how negative they might seem.
Fully recognize that you're your own best cheerleader. It's
not reasonable or healthy for you to depend on others to
make you feel good about yourself. Remember no one is
accountable for you but you.
Maybe you didn't understand or recognize that as you entered
adulthood, that you alone would determine how your
self-esteem would develop. You may have had bad feelings
about the "bum deals" you were handed in life. Did you
bother to take the time to grab hold of your life and give
it a true and different direction and reason? If this is
you, then now this is the time to let go of your sense of
over- responsibility for others. Every person is the captain
of their own ship.
Now is "the" time to protect and nurture your own health
and emotional well being. You have to remember that life is
passing you by! Take preventive health oriented steps of
structuring your life with better time management, stress
management, confronting fears, and burnout prevention. Take
a very honest inventory of your strengths, abilities,
talents, virtues, gifts and positive points.
Develop positive, self-affirming, self-talk scripts to
enhance and encourage your personal development and growth.
These will help you let go of blame and anger toward people
and things in your past. ( who have probably done the best
they could do, given the limitations of their knowledge,
background, awareness and situation at the time. )
It's vital that you do work out all anger, hostility,
pessimism and depression over your past hurts, pains, abuse,
mis-treatment, and mis-direction and neglect. You'll always
have negative consequences until you tame your lack of
responsibility in life. Hold yourself accountable, face
the music and learn how to dance to your own tune!
You'll have a hard time getting rid of your baggage if you
can't honestly handle your past and present. You are the
master of your future. You craft your future everyday by
responsible behaviors. Moving on isn't easy but you could
feel a lot better if you become responsible and move on with
your life.
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About The Author:
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